Fear Is In Us

What is the definition of fear to you? Is it a deep sense of feeling that will immobilise your motion and thinking? I believe we have various definitions of fear, but the commonality is that we understand that fear is in all of us.

Have you ever seen a tigress protect her cubs when under threat? Tigresses are overly cautious and secretive when caring for young cubs. She will immediately move them if the area becomes disturbed or threatened. Under extreme case, she would attack her predator if she has to.

In year 2003, I participated in Anthony Robbins event, Unleash The Power Within (UPW) and one of its climax exercise was to walk the fire. What was on my mind that time? Fill with fear! Images of burnt victims crossed my mind... I couldn't help but to focus on such horrible images. After Tony explained the exercise, I mastered the tactic to overcome my fear. Most self-improvement books will have these sayings,

"What you focus, is what you get"
"What you focus on will expand"
"Where focus goes, energy flows and results show"

and of course, there are others. So I understood the true meaning of the exercise and I came out of the fire without any degree of burn. I was so excited and we were asked to celebrate histerically. Celebration allows one to anchor the feeling!

So the next time you come across situation where fear is trying to control you, stop focusing on it... think of solution and you will arrive at one.

Courage is seeing the face of fear and refusing to have it be our master!

On Failure and Learning from Mistakes

While walking in the mall, you saw a toddler struggling to walk properly. In your mind you thought, "Isn't she so cute... oh, come on. Walk steadily... Yes, that's right." You were anxiously waiting to see her make that few more baby steps.

The next few seconds, she fell and landed on her backside. She leaned forward with her hands on the ground, pushing her body upward to a balance position before she could stand properly again. That's the spirit of the toddler - never give up. You go, "Well done baby girl!"

How often in the adult world when we failed in achieving something, or simply made mistakes, we lost that spirit which once infected us when we were young?

Most people are afraid to fail. They worry constantly about not meeting expectations, making a mistake, or trying something new. Because of this, many never get started on the path toward reaching their goals.. and thus assure themselves of the very thing they are afraid of.. failure. In order to become a successful entrepreneur you will likely have to ‘pay your dues.' You'll likely have to fail a few times, learn from your lessons, and only then be able to come through a winner. While you don't have to take wild chances, you do have to take calculated and educated risks.

In the world of academics, mistakes are perceived as bad and to be avoided. For the first twenty-two years of your life, you are taught that mistakes are bad and embarrassing.. when in fact mistakes are simply opportunities to learn something new. The more mistakes a person makes, the more they will have learned and the greater chance they will have of succeeding on their next try. The key, however, is to learn from your mistakes and never make the same mistake twice.

Thomas Edison would have never invented the light bulb if he did not take this principle to heart. Edison failed more than 10,000 times before he found the filament that would create light for a sustained period of time. He did not view these as failures, however. On the 6,635th try to find a proper filament for the light bulb, Edison did not see himself has having failed 6634 times. He reframed the situation so that to him he had successfully eliminated 6,643 possibilities, refining and narrowing his search as he proceeded, drawing him closer and closer to his goal.

Two other failures you may have heard of are Levi Strauss and Christopher Columbus. Strauss headed for the gold mines of California in hopes of gold and glory. But he found none. Instead, this failure gave him new knowledge of a gap in the marketplace. He began selling pants out of canvas for the miners that were succeeding. Today, we've all heard of Levi Strauss jeans. Columbus failed miserably on his goal to find a route to India . However, in failing he ran into a new opportunity.. that of the new world. By taking action and learning from your mistakes and failures, you'll gain new knowledge and become aware of many new opportunities. When you come to the edge of what you know, it's time to make some mistakes.

If you have reached the edge of your career after a number of years and feeling enormously tired, it's time that you make some mistakes. Try making some daring approaches to your work. If the only solution is for you to seek for another new job, do it. If being entreprising is what you desire, go for it. To put yourself in a dilemma situation will not help you move on. If you keep doing the same thing, you will get the same result. Anthony Robbins said that insanity is when you keep doing the same thing and hoping for a different result. An instant mistake that will reap new learning experience is certainly much better than years of clinging on to the same old mistake and doing nothing at all.

Mastering YOUR LIFE

Quick Summary of Anthony Robbins' Lesson from Unlimited Power

80% of success is PSYCHOLOGY, 20% is MECHANICAL

Psychology simple means our state of mind (mindset).

3 DECISIONS of destiny

There are 3 decisions we are making every moment of our lives that determine our destiny

1. What are you going to focus on?

2. What does it mean?

3. What are you going to do?

Where focus goes, energy flows

So focus on what you want and not what you fear!

What does it take to master your life?

1. Raise your standards (Change your SHOULD to MUST)

2. Change your limiting beliefs

3. Model the strategies that work (Success leaves clues)

4. Increase your emotional intensity to train and build your emotional muscle

5. Give more than you expect to receive (Secret to living is giving)

If you don't quite understood what is presented here, feel free to ask me for more details :)

Unleashing the Unlimited Power

Despite at such late hour (12:15 am, 5th Sept), I want to complete this writting. I was at Unlimited Power seminar yesterday. It was a one day event which truly is unlimited! I first met Anthony Robbins in year 2003 during his Unleash The Power Within seminar which was held in Kuala Lumpur. Few years later, I was glad to meet this World's Number 1 Success Coach again in Singapore. It did rekindle the deeply rooted emotion drew from UPW2003 and also unleashed the power within me. That power drives me to continue writting! Presto!

Two more speakers were present: Allan Pease and Stephen Pierce.

Anthony Robbins
World's #1 Success Coach

Highly respected as the nation's foremost authority on the psychology of peak performance and personal, professional, and organizational turnaround, Robbins has advised and counseled Fortune 500 CEOs, world-renowned medical doctors, championship sports teams (including America's Cup winner, America 3; Stanley Cup finalist, Los Angeles Kings; NBA Champion San Antonio Spurs; and other teams in the NHL, MLB, and NBA), elite athletes and coaches (including Andre Agassi; Greg Norman; and championship-winning athletes from the NFL, PGA, USTA and NASCAR) and legends in entertainment (such as Quincy Jones and Anthony Hopkins). He has coached the late Princess Diana, Nelson Mandela, Andre Agassi and many well known figures.

Stephen Pierce

Business Optimization Strategist

Business Optimization Strategist whose highly effective interactive results coaching and consulting has made him an internationally in-demand speaker. Pierce is CEO of Impulsive Profits, Inc., Innovation Marketers, LLC and owner of the Ann Arbor Thinkubator, Michigan's most creative and innovative meeting space, where business owners travel from as far as Asia, Australia and the United Kingdom to experience the power of Pierce's optimization strategies.

Allan Pease

Body Language Expert

Allan Pease has been known internationally as "Mr. Body Language" since his definitive book with that title became a multi-million seller and the communication bible for organizations worldwide. His keynote addresses, books, video and audio programs, TV shows and advice on personal image are sought after by everyone from business executives and Prime Ministers, to TV presenters, Royalty and rock stars. His sales and communications systems have grown companies from one man bands to multi-nationals.


Here, catch the opening ceremony video captured from my IXUS 65.

Unlimited Power was truly awesome and mind blowing! The impact on me was truly great and life changing. My greatest lesson is not to settle for less but to set a new high standard and step up to it.

Here's a short clip of Tony's session.